Questions to Violet
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Hey Violet,
I got a problem. I have a case of very low self-esteem. It doesn’t usually hinder me, but I’ve found that it has been a problem regarding my romantic life. I can hardly ever work up the courage to ask girls out, and when I do, I always get turned down. I know I don’t exactly keep the best of appearances, but I know I’m at least somewhat attractive. at least decent.
I know girls tend to typically like guys who clean up, but I like the way I look and i feel that I shouldn’t stand for double standards. Equality and all that. Are my views and personality quirks too extreme and going to forever get in the way of my love life?
Sincerely
Sebastian
Hey Sebastian,
Well, no, your views and personality quirks aren’t extreme at all. Basically it comes down to just learning how to do these four things:
1) Be the best version of yourself
2) Don’t change who you are, but improve upon it
3) Don’t be a doormat, be their equal and
4) Make sure you have a life.
You basically don’t want to change who you are, just make sure that you’re presentable and not going over the top in changing yourself. And you don’t want to change your core personality, but you do want to make sure that the social norms are met and that you’re not hurting anyone in the process. On top of that you don’t want to spoil a girl, but at the same time you don’t want to be dominating over their entire life, and don’t make the girl you’re chasing after the sole purpose of your life.
The other thing is that I would suggest to you is to just start asking out more girls. I know asking out girls is kind of intimidating, and the lack of courage can bite you in the butt a lot of the time. But that’s the thing, building up your courage is the main thing to do. The thing is, you need to make sure you find a way to make yourself comfortable enough in order to gain courage. One way that I suggest is to basically make yourself feel the best you can before asking out someone, that way you feel comfortable and confident. The other thing that I suggest is to not take a no too seriously. Think of it this way: a girl tells you no, what have you lost? Nothing. So don’t let a no hurt you too much.
Don’t worry, as long as you try, you’ll eventually find someone. Just don’t stop trying :3
Violet
Dear Violet,
Rodney is just adorable and looks like he has lots to say. I never had a rabbit as a pet. What does Tyler think about him?
KD/Fan from NY
Violet I really like your comic it’s great reading keep up the good work.
Is it OK to use that e-mail address to suggest questions for the strip even if they’re not questions we want answered (e.g. if we’ve already found a good answer, if they were questions we’ve answered in the past, etc)?
Yep, it’s totally to suggest questions! :3
Dear Violet,
How do I convince HR that I *need* a cattle prod to “inspire motivation in people so they can meet their deadlines?” I’m willing to settle for an iron hot poker if need be… 🙁
Hmm, well if they don’t like the cattle prod, maybe you could threaten to play cheesy hair metal songs over the PA system close to the deadline. Those who finish before the deadline are allowed to leave early for the day. Or noise cancelling headphones.
Dear Violet How will I know when I’ve found the right someone to have a serious relationship with?
Dear Violet, if she is bound and gagged, and cant say no… is it rape? or is it BDSM?